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Lore Wilbert's avatar

This is everything I hoped it would be. Thank you for saying it all.

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Annelise Roberts's avatar

Jen, as a mother of five young children who often wrestles with how to validate my need to write, I'm grateful for your writing this. I do wish there was more space for it. I struggle to explain it, and even to my incredibly supportive husband, I occasionally try to explain the deep sense of being lost in our church tradition, with limited success. Why did God give me these gifts, and what do I do with them? I am ambitious and driven, but also committed to prioritizing my family. But I do not want to lose the thing that makes me myself in the midst of that. In those rare moments of feeling like I've found a balance, the writing is what makes the day to day drudgery of homeschool, endless diaper changes and sleep deprivation worth it. It makes me feel like a real person with fully formed thoughts. And I think it's important, but it also makes me feel somehow like I'm taking too much. But I want my boys to know that I write for other people to read, that I have a hobby, that sometimes I'm a person who exists as other things than a mother and wife. But it's not that I don't want to be a mother and wife! I love those identities. I just am me, too.

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